As a teacher, I often heard parents using academics as a form of discipline without realizing it AND without realizing the unintentional negative side effects. We tend to think “the more the better” as far as academic practice goes at home, and end up pushing “school” on our kids. Unfortunately, your child takes their feelings with them from home to school. This means that when your child is forced to sit down and do their workbook for a half hour, they are building negative thoughts, feelings & experiences around doing school work.
The most common reasoning I hear for this is that parents want their child to be able to sit down & focus on one thing for an extended period of time so they can “be good” at school.
BUT GUESS WHAT
When a little one is forced into tracing, reading, counting etc. at home before school starts for them, they’re likely to build up some strongggg resistance toward school skills in general. Then, when they show up to school and are expected to do their school work, they already hate it before trying it and they’ll pick a number of ways to attempt to get out of it.
INSTEAD – build their self discipline through other activities:
- Building lego sets (or whatever toys they enjoy)
- Drawing a picture
All of these things build discipline, and that discipline and stamina can then translate over into their school life.
Parents: your job isn’t to teach your child academic skills they learn at school. If it was, then what would teachers be there for!?
Teachers go to years of school and spend A LOT of time in classrooms in order to become experts at their profession. Their job is to teach your child. Your job is to send your child to school ready to learn.
See what I mean? Kindergarten readiness isn’t focused on academics. It comes from resilience, social awareness, emotional independence, and a positive attitude toward school.
Join me on July 20th to learn what kindergarten readiness looks like and walk away with 3 things you can do this summer to support your child’s k readiness (if they start K this or next fall).
***NOTE: if you have a child who CANNOT wait for school and asks you for “homework” all the time – this isn’t for you. Give that kid fun “homework” all they want.