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9/26/2020

1 step to teaching your child emotional regulation

2020 or not, life is crazy. Demonstrating how we manage our own emotions is one of the best ways to show kids how to manage theirs.

If you always show them a happy front, they will think that they’re supposed to always be happy, and anything different is unacceptable or abnormal.

I’m not saying to tell them all the details, there are definitely many things that kids don’t need to know. I am saying to show them how you work through it.

When I have a frustrating moment with my class here’s what I do:

  1. Identify the feeling: “I’m feeling frustrated right now”
  2. ID physical “calm down” method: “to help work through this feeling I’m going to take 3 deep breaths then make a plan” 
  3. *take the deep breaths* 
  4. Wrap it up & make a forward moving plan: 
    1. Move on right away: Those 3 deep breaths helped. I’m ready to let it go & move on.
    2. For the future: Next time, I’m going to ___ so I don’t have the same challenge again.
    3. Still having the feeling: I’m still feeling frustrated, I’m going to go for a walk to clear my mind and let it go.
    4. Insight gained: ___ (frustrating situation) tells me that ___ … ex:
      • 5 kids asking the same question tells me that my directions were unclear and I need to say them a different way. Thumbs up if you are listening & ready for me to try a different way?
      • I’ve asked you 5 times to put you toys away and they’re still out. This tells me I need to communicate in a different way and make sure I have your full attention. Are you listening? Your job is to pick up your toys and put them in their homes until they are all put away. You have 1 minute. Go!

Throughout the years that I’ve modeled this, I always get emails from parents saying “Mackenzie – my child just had a tough moment and he/she stopped what she was doing, took 3 deep breaths and then recovered!” 

Kids want to please, and they want to be just like you. The next time you’re ready to scream or cry, give this a try.

DM or email me to let me know how it goes!

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