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8/09/2020

How to Stop Repeating Yourself

How many times do you think you repeat yourself in a day? Feels like 5 million doesn’t it. Yep, I feel you. As a kindergarten teacher with 20+ five-year-olds you can imagine how many “Miss Magaurn what am I supposed to do?”s I get in a day. Thank goodness they’re cute! Ha. 

So one time, I was thinking to myself whyyyyyyyyy am I having to say this for the 10th time and it hit me: I am the one repeating myself! Not them. I am teaching them that I give directions more than one time. I decided then & there I was done repeating myself. I was so tired of it. 

So what I’m saying is… simply stop repeating yourself. But it’s not simple at all. That’s kind of like telling someone who’s trying to lose weight to just eat less than they burn. Great thinking, but need some specifics.

This is a habit and pattern we get into and it takes a strongggg effort and commitment to make the change. It can be quite frustrating, so before you even start I want to help you shift your mindset. 

Often kids are slow to start something because they don’t know where to start. It’s overwhelming or confusing. Even when it seems obvious to us and when they’ve done it before.

You’re creating new expectations and patterns with your child (and with yourself), so you’re going to have to do more explaining. Stick with this for 2 weeks and let me know how it goes. 

If I can do it, you can do it! 

Here’s how I stuck to it. Let’s use putting on shoes as an example:

What we’re saying now: Go put your shoes on! What *might* be happening: your angel child keeps doing whatever they’re doing and the shoes are not on the feet. Ugh!

  • Tell them exactly what you want them to do. Be specific!! They are quite literal, so being specific is key. Then practice it together.
    • My advice of what to say (also, having eye contact is a great thing to get here!!): Put your shoes on! That means stop what you’re doing, go get them from your room, bring them back here, put them on your feet & tell me when you’re done. Got that?! Say it with me. Step 1: stop Step 2: go get them Step 3: bring them here Step 4: put them on Step 5: tell momma you’re done. Any questions?! Okay, GO!
  • Remind them: The next time you tell them to put on their shoes remind them the specific steps you expect.
    • Time to put on your shoes. Do you remember the steps? Tell them to me:) … Great, go!
  • Create “excitement”: The next time, you can add a little incentive.
    • Time to put on your shoes! Do you remember the steps? You have 30 seconds stop, go & bring them back here! Ready? GO!

This takes patience and time. Two things of which parents just have so much extra supply. But you can either continue repeating yourself forever, or you can put in the time in the beginning to make this change and save time (and energy, and patience) in the long run.

I believe in you. 

I would love to hear how it goes for you. Send me an email to tell me! 

xo,

Mackenzie

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